“Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.” – Jonathan Lockwood Huie
The above quote claims that those who wronged you don’t deserve forgiveness. This is easy to say when you’re not the one who was in the wrong but everybody makes mistakes. We’ve all caused some kind of harm to other people, but it’s vital to remember that only hurt people hurt other people. I personally believe that everyone deserves forgiveness, even if an apology was not provided. Understanding is the basis of true unconditional love. When you learn to forgive yourself first, then the other, you also help him/her love themselves a little more and become a better person.
For the longest time ever I truly believed that forgiveness made me look weak or that it justified the the actions of others. It took me a long time to unlearn these false pretenses. It was only until I chose to forgive myself did I feel liberated. Forgiveness is freedom. It sets not one, but two souls free.
We can only forgive others after we’ve forgiven ourselves, in the same way that you cannot pour from an empty vessel. Forgive yourself everyday. Forgive yourself for any judgmental thoughts you have towards yourself instantly. We are often unaware of the fact that we make ourselves a target of harm. Allow me to expand as this helped me move forward in my liberation.
Most of the time, if we are identified with our egos, we do whatever it takes to avoid responsibility. Our egos are hurt when we face blame. Healing can only take place when we take full responsibility for our lives. For example, emitting low self esteem frequencies will get us treated accordingly, and yet we are surprised when somebody brings us pain. The universe matches our frequency with others that have low self esteem. Nobody does this willingly of course! It stems out of our subconscious mind and belief systems set from a young age.
Responsibility unfortunately has a negative connotation. Most children are berated and yelled at for being irresponsible, most of us are expected to be responsible overnight yet nobody teaches us how. A lot of it has to do with overwhelming parental control. Remember to also unlearn the negativity associated with responsibility. Responsibility provides freedom from being “a victim of circumstances” in which you are powerless to change. Responsibility is power.
Take responsibility for your own wellbeing. Forgive yourself for making decisions that didn’t serve you. Forgive yourself for not knowing. Then forgive those who caused you pain. Don’t allow something that happened years ago to paralyze your wellbeing today. Take back your power. Replace expectation with understanding. Other peoples’ actions also stem from their personal subconscious, conditioning and lack of self-love. Consider that they just don’t know any better.
Forgive yourself.
Forgive others.
Remember the lesson.
With loving energy,
Tee
Peace of Tee 