Cultivating peace isn’t solely about incorporating new habits into our lives. It’s also about releasing certain blockages. We may think that feelings of resentment are how we teach others a lesson for mistreating us, but the truth is, resentment only harms the beholder. Consider that resentment is like a cancerous seed. When we water and feed it, it grows into an ugly monster that steals sunlight from other healthy seeds that have the potential to grow into wonderful manifestations, such as joy, passion or kindness.
Resentment and revenge are nothing but a waste of your energy and time. They have the ability to age your soul and hold you back from living a well deserved happy life. If you’re ready to start your cleansing process and live to your highest potential, the below step by step method will guide you to a step closer to freedom everyday:
1. Grab a pen and paper and start by making a list of things in your life that caused you to harbor any feelings of resentment. These could include your boss, your parents, your ex, a situation or even money.
2. By noting the approximate time in your life that you felt hurt or mistreated you will become aware of just how long you’ve been carrying resentment in your heart. This will also show you how long you’ve been holding yourself back! Is it still worth it? Does something someone did to you x amount of years ago, still have the power to hinder you? Are you ready to take your power back?
3. Replace judgement with understanding. Next to each of your points, ask yourself: why? Most of the time we tend to forget that only hurt people, hurt people. Here, you are finally cleansing your resentment and learning to become a more compassionate person.
For example, “I realize I have been resentful towards my mother since I was 5 years old because she chose to hit me to teach me a lesson. Why? I am now aware that my mother hit me because her mother hit her. She is conditioned that way, and while that doesn’t excuse what she did, I refuse to let this memory have power over my life now.”
You may even realize that you were part of the problem! Perhaps you could’ve communicated your thoughts and expectations better. The point of this exercise is not to dwell on the past but to take responsibility and gain clarity. Remember, you cannot begin to fix an issue without first identifying it. You can only come out winning by finally choosing to learn from the past.
4. End each point with the following mantra: “I choose to reinterpret this point with love. I consciously release any resentment I have towards __________ (whatever the point is)
5. You can take your cleansing process a step forward and visualize yourself standing in front of your subject and saying “I forgive you, I release you.”
Most of us refuse to forgive because we believe forgiveness excuses the actions of another person but in reality, lack of forgiveness is like giving your power away! You are allowing yourself to be affected. There is a way to forgive a situation and only take the lesson with you. The lesson doesn’t burden you like resentment. It doesn’t weigh you down and steal your light. The lesson makes you stronger.
I personally started this little daily exercise a month ago and have never felt freer. You’d be surprised by how a tiny bit of “hashing it out” with yourself, could get you closer to yourself. I only hope it does the same for you 🙂
Never be afraid of reaching out to a professional. If you’ve done this exercise for over a month and still hold a cauldron of negative feelings within you, seek an alternative medicine healer, a psychologist or a life coach. There are people out there dedicated to helping you!
With loving energy,
Tee
Peace of Tee 